How Healthy is My Marriage?

Has this question been on your mind?

Whether you're newlyweds or have been together for a while, it's always a good idea to check in and assess the health of your relationship.

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A happy marriage requires effort from both partners, so it's essential to recognize any areas breaking down or being pulled apart, contributing to your relationship struggles.

It's no secret that marriage can be tough, even when it's a gift from God. We all face challenges in our relationships, but that doesn't mean we should give up or let those challenges destroy us.

It is possible to turn a hurting marriage into a healthy one!

So let's get started and discover the health of your marriage and ways to strengthen your bond and reconnect with your spouse!

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Signs of an Unhealthy Marriage

While we all strive for a healthy marriage, sometimes things can take a turn for the worse. Here are some signs of an unhealthy marriage to watch out for:

  • Minimal communication: If you and your spouse are not communicating regularly and effectively, it can lead to misunderstandings and emotional distance.
  • Constant arguing: Of course, we will argue or disagree at times, but when it becomes the norm and it's not resolved healthily, it can lead to resentment and a breakdown of communication.
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  • Withholding affection: Physical touch and intimacy are very important in feeling connected to one another. If one spouse is consistently withholding affection or distancing themselves, then there may be deeper issues that you need to talk about.
  • Unresolved conflict: No couple is going to agree on everything. However, if you can't resolve conflict, the result will be a lot of undue tension and stress in your marriage.
  • Lack of trust: This is huge in a marriage relationship! Lying or hiding things from each other will gradually erode trust and lead to feelings of betrayal.
  • Contempt and criticism: This is when communication gets ugly because it's tearing your partner down, which leads to anger and frustration.
  • Thought of divorce: If this thought begins to surface in either spouse, often they begin to feel hopeless, discouraged, or at the end of their rope. This is a red flag!

It's normal to have doubts and struggles in any marriage. Many couples do. However, if you notice your overall relationship is full of tension, anger, or hopelessness, it's time to do something about it.

How to Revive an Unhappy Marriage

If you recognize a few of the alarming signs above in your marriage, don't despair! There are steps you can take to rebuild a strong marriage foundation and move closer together.

  • Cultivate mutual respect and support: Show your spouse you value and appreciate them. Express gratitude for the kind things they do in your relationship and be willing to support them in return.
  • Re-establish communication: Make an effort to improve your communication patterns. Be honest and open with your spouse, and actively listen to their thoughts and feelings.
  • Develop compassion and empathy: Put yourself in your spouse's shoes and try to see things from their perspective. Be willing to compromise and show understanding and forgiveness.
  • Spend quality time together: Make time to connect with your spouse regularly. Prioritize this time and make it a habit.
  • Actively listen: Pay attention to your spouse's words and nonverbal cues. Show that you are engaged and interested in what they have to say.
  • Prioritize the marriage relationship: Make your marital relationship a priority, even above other commitments and relationships. Invest time and energy into making it a strong and healthy partnership.
  • Pray together: This can help strengthen your emotional intimacy and open up communication. It also provides a sense of peace and connection.

Strengthen the Relationship Bond

Remember, it takes commitment and effort to revive an unhealthy marriage, but with the right tools and mindset, you can build a stronger, happier partnership.

Focus on good communication, emotional intimacy, praying together, and developing healthy habits that ensure a good marriage.

By committing to making your marriage a priority and placing each other first, you can create that thriving marriage you desire!

Take the marriage quiz to find out the health of your marriage and get clarity on strengthening and growing a happy Christ-centered relationship!

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Remember, if you suspect that you may be in an abusive relationship, it's important to seek professional help. Please know that this article is intended to offer general guidance and is not a substitute for medical or professional advice. We care about your well-being and encourage you to take the necessary steps to prioritize your safety and health.